1531: The wise, pious and moral speeches of Imam Sadiq (a.s): part three

In the name of Allah the Beneficent the Merciful
21- Imam Ja’far bn Muhammad (peace be upon them) said:
Be a decoration for us and not a disgrace, say good statements to people, safeguard your tongue, stop interference into other people’s affairs and also stop bad statement. (Raudatul wa’izeen, vol: 2, pg: 467).
22- Imam Ja’far bn Muhammad (peace be upon them) said:
It is not proper for a man to die except he has learned the holy Qur'an or on the process of learning it. (al-Kafi, vol: 2, pg: 607).
23- Imam Ja’far bn Muhammad (peace be upon them) said:
My dearest brother is he that shows me my fault. (Bihar al-Anwar, vol: 74, pg: 282).
24- Imam Ja’far bn Muhammad (peace be upon them) said:
There is no friendship except with its limits; therefore includes those in this limit in your friend and excludes who is not possessing any of it from your friend.
1- Those that their outward and inward are one to you;
2- Whom your adorn is his adorn and your disgrace is his disgrace;
3- Whose habit did not change towards you when he is rich or when he is bestowed with a position;
4- Who did not prevent you from what he obtains through his potentiality;
5- Having all this characteristics and he should not forsake you when you are in an entanglement.
Brief explanation to this narration by Leader of Islamic Revolution Imam Khamanei:
Friendship is having limit and if it obtains those limits there will be a lot of impact and benefits that will follow it up and if not it would not be.
Now if the entire limit does not exist let at least there be an existence of part of it so that such relation can be called friendship.
- The foremost of it is that the outward and outward to be one to you, it is not proper to apparently show friendship to you and to inwardly have enmity towards you or will not wish you good.
- The second limit is that your friend should see your adorn as his adorn and your disgrace as his disgrace. If you are elevated knowledge wise or get a nice job which is regarded as adorn and praise worth for you, your friend must also see it as adorn and praise worth for himself, and if there is any bad attitude (may Allah forbid) or attribute that cause shamefulness to you, he should also see it as shamefulness to himself which he will like to conceal or do away with it. A friend must not be such that will be waiting to see a defect in you in order to rejoice for that, definitely such person is not regarded as friend.
- The third limit is that his habit should not change towards you when he is rich and when he is fortunate to be in a position. Meanwhile a lot of people are like this. That is at the moment when they became rich or secure a very nice job he will deem it as if he has not knew you before. Therefore a friend is such that richness and high rank in office will not make him to change his behavior towards you.
- The fourth limit is that he did not prevent you from what he has obtained through his potentiality. He should render an assistance to you, mediate for your benefit, give beneficial advises and do all he can in order to render help to you.
- The fifth and the last limit is that upon having all this characteristics he should not forsake you when ever you are in an entanglement. He should not forsake you when in a problem like sickness and any other difficulties. You can envisage in this our era that there is a lot of political, economical and all sorts of problems which has never be in existence for the past but we are presently envisaging it; all these are regarded as a great test; therefore we should not forsake people rather we should render assistance.
(Lecture by the leader of Islamic Republic in his advance lesson on 20/10/ 1389).
25- From the authority of Hamad bn Uthman, he said:
A man came to Imam Jafar bn Mohamad al-Sadiq (peace be upon him) and said to him: enlighten me about good manner O’ the son of the holy Prophet.
He said: pardon whoever has oppressed you, stick to relation of he who has cut his relation from you, if you obtain give to he who has prevented you and say the truth even if it is against you. (Wasa’il Shi’ah, chapter strive with your soul, hadith 65).
26- Imam Jafar bn Muhammad (peace be upon them) said:
There was a conflict between Salman and one other person, the man said to Salman: who are you and what are you?
Salman said t him: as for mine and your beginning, it is from dirty semen and for mine and your ending is from carcass; when the Judgment day comes the scale shall be put forward and whoever’s scale weigh heavier is the noble one and whoever’s scale is lighter is the depraved one. (Ma’anil Akhbar,pg: 208).
27- Imam Jafar bn Muhammad (peace be upon them) said:
Winter is the springtime of the believer; it is having longer night so he should assist it by night prayer and benefit from its day by fasting as it is short. (Ma’anil Akhbar,pg: 228).
28- Imam Jafar bn Muhammad (peace be upon them) said:
A Muslim is he whom people are free from his hand and tongue, and a believer is he whom people entrusted their wealth and life in his possession. (Ma’anil Akhbar,pg: 239).
29- Imam Jafar bn Muhammad (peace be upon them) said:
Whoever is pleased with little out of the bounty from Allah, He accept his little deeds and whoever is pleased with little that is permissible, his responsibility will be lighter, his revenue will be purify and he will be existed from the limit of the needy. (Tuhfal Uqul, pg: 397).
30- Imam Jafar bn Muhammad (peace be upon them) said:
You will not be a believer except you have considered your misfortune as favor and your comfort as affliction. (Tuhfal Uqul, pg: 441).